Welcome to the real world, it sucks, you’re gonna love it.Monica Geller
Not that it is news to anyone but I AM OBSESSED WITH FRIENDS. The show aired two months before I was born and ended way before I even reached puberty. There are 236 episodes in total and I’ve probably watched every single episode just as many times. I know that nobody understands my love for the show and why I can watch it on repeat and still laugh at the same jokes. So I thought it was time for you to meet my F.R.I.E.N.D.S and understand our relationship.
If you google the psychological reason why Friends is a crowd favorite it’s because if you have any form of mild anxiety, this show helps to relieve some of those stresses. When the article came about on my Facebook feed, I wasn’t learning anything new. I started watching friends when I was an au pair and I never left the house the first three months because driving gave me anxiety, knowing I could get lost easily gave me anxiety, trying to keep up with Madison and Makenna’s busy schedule gave me anxiety, trying to make new friends gave me anxiety, going to college gave me anxiety… basically I felt like it wasn’t my day, week or year. (Friends humor; if you know, you know)
Those six characters shaped my early twenties and gave me a new perspective on adulting. I know life isn’t a tv show but I got comfort knowing that I don’t need to have it all figured out at 21, I’m allowed to have fun in my twenties, I’m allowed to freak out in my twenties, I can embrace every quirk, every mistake and every failure and just keep moving forward because it’s not forever. If you’ve entered your twenties and have received a birthday message from me you will know that this is usually the jest of my wish to you.
Each character has been very strategically created to be very realistic and easily relatable. They come together and make an interesting group dynamic. They each have some characteristic that resonates with you:
Monica Gellar: Her OCD tendencies provide a lot of humor but it also reminds us that sometimes we get so caught up aiming for perfection but in reality the most important thing is being satisfied with yourself and accepting that your standards will differ to the next person.
Chandler Bing: Through most of the seasons we see him as the funny guy, in any difficult situation he’s got a joke lined up even if the moment is inappropriate. We understand that his humor and wit is really to hide his childhood traumas and insecurities but in the later seasons we start to see a more mature side to him, which we can easily take that even when you’ve dealt with the traumas or if they exist, you can still find moments to laugh and be jovial. Life doesn’t have to be so serious all the time.
Rachel Green: She was introduced to us as a spoilt rich girl with a very narcissistic personality but her importance of appearance paid of when she finally landed a job in Paris. We watch her go from being dependent on her father’s money to finally finding her own two feet. I love the growth of her character, her maturity is clearly shown throughout the series. A reminder that if you take a risk you might find yourself becoming a strong, self sufficient woman.
Ross Gellar: Probably the most annoying character for me but he has the funniest personality. He is the one who tries by all means to avoid conflict but this puts him in some really hilarious situations. He doesn’t speak his mind until forced to. Ross teaches us that keeping quiet and just accepting things we don’t like doesn’t always guarantee a happy life.
Joey Tribbiani: He isn’t the brightest of the bunch but he reminds us so often to value friendship above everything else. He takes things with a pinch of salt and despite his many failures you seldom saw him give up on his passion for acting – a reminder to always fight for what you love.
Phoebe Buffay: This one is really a complex character. Her quirks and the weirdness ends up being very well accepted but obviously not without judgement. I love her character, she’s a great reminder that being yourself isn’t wrong, she’s strong in her beliefs and doesn’t hesitate to speak her mind. We can all learn from her.
It’s not for everyone but if you’re looking for a lighthearted show to binge, something to have on in the background to keep you calm or a late night show to end a rough day… THIS IS IT.